Freedom Day / Family Day!!

“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you” John 14:18

Wow!  What a day!  I must admit, I had some rather high expectations of how this day would feel, but it’s so much more than even what I envisioned!  Our hearts and souls are filled with joy as the Lord brings to completion His plan for our family to adopt Nathan Ilya Boehrs, our second son and 5th child.

I must reflect upon one of the things I first posted when I started this blog in August 2010.  In my first blog post ever I wrote this:

ADOPT:  To take by choice into a relationship

I’ve done a lot of thinking about this word over the last year as we have contemplated what it might mean to our family.  It isn’t about something that just happens to you and it isn’t about a feeling that might come and go.  It’s a deliberate choice, an action, a commitment to another individual.  It shouldn’t be taken lightly.

Adoption is a very intentional way of becoming a parent or beginning to parent a new child in your family.  I think about what it took to make this happen.  I think about all the planning.  I think about all the doors that God had to open.  I think about all the ways that God made this possible.  I cannot imagine not having done this.  It feels so right.  Not that my feelings are the confirmation I need.  My feelings of “this was so meant to be” flow out of knowing that this was God’s plan for Ilya’s life and God’s plan for our family and for Bruce and I as parents.  To think that we started praying about this almost two years ago.  We were fearful of all kinds of irrational things.  We were concerned about many practical things.  We wondered if he was really calling us to adoption.  We weren’t sure if we were willing.  God has taken care of all of it.  God enabled us to stop being fearful.  We chose to be willing and we chose to trust God and ask him what he had for us in regard to adoption.  We chose not to worry about how it would all work out.  As we come full circle into bringing Nathan into our family, (as I have shared with many of you in the hallways of our school, or in the parking lot, or on the phone, in emails, etc.) I cannot imagine doing anything other than following through with Ilya’s adoption at this point!

I want to emphasize the importance of not letting our fears stop us from what God has set before us.  He will never call us to something if we do not first invite him to speak to us about it.  He is a very courteous, gentle Lord who does not force us to do anything.  But He longs to make a huge presence in our lives and he longs to carry out his wonderful plans through us.  But we need to allow him to do that.  He will not force Himself upon us.  He loves us no matter how we respond to him, but he longs for us to love him back and choose to have a relationship with him.  He longs to adopt us as sons and daughters.

I received a text from Bruce this morning a little after 7:00 telling me to read his Facebook status.  This is what it said:  “is trying to wait patiently for a very important document to be signed by the president of the court. Yet today? It is in the hands of my God.”  I responded by starting to pray specifically about this issue and trying to release it into God’s hands.  I also put a prayer request on Facebook inviting others to join me.  Within seconds, two other people were also praying.

Two hours later, I received another text from Bruce stating that he had the court decree in hand and that he and Nathan were jumping onto the subway and heading to the apartment!  After the court decree was brought to the orphanage, Bruce, Nathan, and our facilitator, Igor, jumped into his vehicle and headed straight for Ilya’s district to apply for the new birth certificate.  They left so fast that Bruce didn’t even have a chance to take Nathan’s “exit photos” which are very important to Mama.  So they will have to do that on another day like a movie set – reliving the moment and trying to capture the authenticity of this momentous event!!

Once they were back at the apartment, they called us (Olivia and I) using Skype and we had a wonderful conversation.  As we prepared to hang up, I told Nathan that I love him, like I have every time that I have spoken to him on the phone during the months before we went to Ukraine and also in person when we visited him at the orphanage.  For the first time ever (unprompted by anyone) my son responded “I love you, Mom.”  I burst into tears and could hardly control myself as we ended the call.  This sweet boy, who has been so wounded in his young life, has decided to once again take a chance on love.  We pursued his adoption knowing that we were guaranteed nothing and that it is difficult for people who have been deeply hurt to learn to trust again and return affection.  We went into this hoping that someday Ilya would be able to receive our love and return love and affection to his family who has completely embraced him.  But we were committed to loving him no matter what.  The blessing of today is beyond my wildest dreams!


7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Dave Ritzman
    May 05, 2011 @ 22:39:15

    Amen, sister!


  2. Sue
    May 06, 2011 @ 09:03:39

    Jill – I’ve got tears of joy streaming down my cheeks after reading this update. Praise the Lord for his many, many blessings. Congrats to you all!


  3. Angel Moin
    May 06, 2011 @ 10:33:57

    Oh Jill that is so WONDERFUL!!! Wow, what an incredible moment that must have been for you. It was a “moment” for me – I can’t even imagine what that must have been like for you. God is so awesome!

    Thank you so much for the regular blog updates – it has been a blessing to see this progression. Ilya (Nathan!) doesn’t even realize the impact his life has already had on so many other peoples’ lives! Wow, that is a neat thought.

    He is loved. God IS Love.


  4. The McEacherns
    May 06, 2011 @ 13:10:09

    Woo-hoo! Congrats again! And I love that he told you he loved you… that makes it all worthwhile, huh?!


    • motorcyclemama5
      May 06, 2011 @ 19:22:43

      Yes! And I think it is more meaningful to me than if he had started saying it right away all the time. He’s had a lot of time to consider whether or not to make that leap. It was on the same day that he showed his only picture of his birth mom to Bruce. I was able to tell him over Skype that I will help him find a special frame for it.


  5. Jennie
    May 07, 2011 @ 12:05:23

    Wow! So wonderful–Blessings to all of you as you enjoy time together!


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